#747: Seth Godin and Dr. Sue Johnson

This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #138 " How Seth Godin Manages His Life — Rules, Principles, and Obsessions " and episode #529 " Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love ."

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Timestamps:

[00:00] Start

[07:36] Notes about this supercombo format.

[08:39] Enter Seth Godin.

[09:05] Seth's rules for speaking engagements and why he developed them.

[13:53] Navigating life's big transitions.

[15:54] Why Seth publishes a daily blog.

[16:54] Writing process and overcoming blocks.

[21:01] Top businesss decisions.

[22:45] Discerning between good and bad ideas.

[24:27] Are you cut out to be an entrepreneur or a freelancer?

[30:10] Opportunies Seth is glad he declined.

[31:56] Money is a story. How does Seth tell it?

[34:56] Seth on education.

[38:11] Suggested practices for overwhelmed parents.

[41:03] Enter Dr. Sue Johnson.

[41:39] Peer-reviewed clinical research supporting Sue's work.

[44:47] EFT's success rate and clinical definition of success in studies with distressed couples.

[48:47] Scales used to assess marital satisfaction and bond in research.

[54:55] Definition of a hold me tight conversation.

[56:15] Examples of hold me tight conversations.

[1:05:52] How a hold me tight conversation might work for someone who tends to isolate or feels isolated.

[1:14:35] Prevalence of isolation and the stigma around "dependency."

[1:18:27] Attachment parenting vs. sleep training.

[1:28:09] Micro-interventions from Rogerian models of therapy (evocative questions).

[1:36:38] Sue's response to clients who struggle to identify their feelings in their body.

[1:43:32] Upping the ante in a hold me tight conversation and its unintended effects.

[1:45:26] Sue's approach to helping someone work through anger.

[1:48:53] Sue's fascination with Winston Churchill and recommended reading.

[1:54:24] Common arguments between tango couples.

[2:07:35] Advice for couples who are in love but lack sexual spark.

[2:17:02] Advice for couples where the woman has a higher sex drive than the man.

[2:22:35] Development and content of Sue's Hold Me Tight Online program.

[2:27:08] Parting thoughts.

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